tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21595148.post114140144426255334..comments2023-11-05T07:22:58.867-05:00Comments on Wide Open on the Mommybahn: Rules of EngagementTestdriverhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03596324722878187186noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21595148.post-1141526162942395612006-03-04T21:36:00.000-05:002006-03-04T21:36:00.000-05:00I think all of this is very interesting. And some...I think all of this is very interesting. And some of the points I definitely agree on-the sleeping and self soothing and the like(and I have a terrible sleeper) I will be interested to continue reading how it all goes. But, don't you get tired sometimes of parenting by the "rules"? Wouldn't you just like sometimes to just do what feels natural to you? Just trying to understand, not trying to say anything negative about your style. :)Toniahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06117870901450313632noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21595148.post-1141512679503596562006-03-04T17:51:00.000-05:002006-03-04T17:51:00.000-05:00She can have Mary Kate and Ashley AND tickle-me-el...She can have Mary Kate and Ashley AND tickle-me-elmo, just not until she's old enough to ask for them, and to program the DVD player herself! :)Testdriverhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03596324722878187186noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21595148.post-1141489699672439482006-03-04T11:28:00.000-05:002006-03-04T11:28:00.000-05:00Yeah, a lot of it is just respecting another perso...Yeah, a lot of it is just respecting another person's humanity, and Montessori doesn't have a trademark on that.<BR/><BR/>Good intentions are a dime a dozen, and mine might be as cheap as anyone's, but I keep thinking that it's like quitting smoking. If you tell everyone you're doing it, you're kind of stuck with it, and people feel bad smoking around you. <BR/><BR/>Also, I think it's important not to try to shelter a social-age child from the real-live things of the world--I have seen the results of that at school, too. Just right now, while I can control things a little more, and while she's really just learning how to "be", I want her to gain the skill of looking at things that are real, and seeing things that are not screaming "BUY ME BUY ME!" even though she will see a lot of those things in the future. What I hope is that, later, she can respect herself through the experience of being respected (that's something that, in many ways, I can exercise some control over. I can let her know how people should treat her). <BR/><BR/>And secretly, in my dark little heart, I would like for her to be a TV snob and give her kids wooden toys and natural fibers--in spite of Tickle-Me-Elmo...Testdriverhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03596324722878187186noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21595148.post-1141466825910869232006-03-04T05:07:00.000-05:002006-03-04T05:07:00.000-05:00hey wow... I actually practice a lot of these thin...hey wow... I actually practice a lot of these things! Maybe I'm more Montessori than I thought ;)( forget about that screaming GO TO YOUR ROOM post on the ol' blog.) I think Gus has a whole different Mommy these days. :) After speaking to our favorite doula about how to communicate to your fit throwing 4 year old, I was given a few pointers and I must say things are looking up. Nuvy is a lucky little one to have such commited parents. I know most people have good intentions about the way they parent.. .but how many of us can say we do exactly as we plan more than most of the time? I know I wish to be a full time attachment parent who owns nothing but wooden toys and no TV... but life happens a little differently sometimes. ( ie: noone asks you what you will "allow" in your home when it comes to birthday gifts... and when recovering from a c-section and are on the verge of a post partum breakdown... that TV is the best thing that has ever happened to me.)Amyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17642797465354679793noreply@blogger.com