tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21595148.post8387377712340444514..comments2023-11-05T07:22:58.867-05:00Comments on Wide Open on the Mommybahn: Owning Turf vs. Making an EntranceTestdriverhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03596324722878187186noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21595148.post-26566059554711928072010-12-22T16:51:52.079-05:002010-12-22T16:51:52.079-05:00I simply love your blog, it's likemeant especi...I simply love your blog, it's likemeant especially for my Montessori son. I will use your story as a key to deal with my own latecomer-habit, as my baby is going to attend Montessori toddies group in Jan. Thanks for sharing!Monikanoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21595148.post-87090514159786915732010-12-09T14:12:44.155-05:002010-12-09T14:12:44.155-05:00That is SO me. I am a constant latecomer, and I f...That is SO me. I am a constant latecomer, and I feel so guilty every morning that I'm with both kids on my own (I think my husband gets my 2-yr-old to the toddler community on time). Said 2-yr-old is in a MAJOR "NO" stage right now. Some mornings it only takes the suggestion of school for him to be dressed to his shoes and hopping at the door to leave. Really, I'd love for him to get to school at 8:30 when his classroom opens, and on those days we usually accomplish that goal.<br /><br />Days like today, he piddles around making trains out of his clementine wedges at breakfast, then he runs around being a robot in our hallway instead of listening to my suggestions to get ready for school, then he refuses to have his diaper changed, he decides he'd like to sit on the toilet, then refuses to sit on the toilet or little potty, then he goes to his changing pad to be changed and lays down in fetal position on his belly singing a song, refuses to roll to his back for the diaper change. I leave based on the suggestion to ignore tantrum/defiant behavior from his teacher at conferences, I quickly get myself completely dressed to the shoes. He cries and calls out for a diaper, I return, he refuses (and we do this 3-4 more times), until he finally has his diaper changed and finishes getting dressed to his shoes. It is now 8:30, the time he is supposed to be arriving at his classroom. So, I buckle the 1-month-old (who is ready and fussing, at this point, to nurse) into the carseat, help the toddler put on his hat and jacket (no fight there, amen), and load the infant into the car expecting the toddler to follow me outside to the car (as he usually does). Instead of following me to the car, he stands at the door refusing to come to the car. (Should I be raising my voice here?... this is the most FRUSTRATING nuisance of a morning ritual EVER). Eventually I go to the door, pick him up and put him in the car in his carseat, which he is entirely capable of climbing into independently. I now call the school at 8:40 to let them know that we are, in fact, planning on coming to school today, but are just leaving the house. Luckily we only live about 7 minutes from school. <br /><br />I am grateful that his grandmother is picking him up from school and watching him until 1. bedtime, or 2. letting him sleepover, which he does occasionally, and greatly enjoys.<br /><br />Suggestions? Solidarity moaning? I'm perplexed by these new behaviors despite having an AMI Primary certification... this seems like a totally different beast than the primary child! Forgive the lengthy comment!Reneehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08103135062793085458noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21595148.post-8428113236577759812010-11-28T14:40:05.206-05:002010-11-28T14:40:05.206-05:00Insightful? I don't know. There are an awful...Insightful? I don't know. There are an awful lot of little changes that can make big differences to kids. <br /><br />It was a lucky guess, but I wanted to throw it out there, in case it stuck for anyone else!Testdriverhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03596324722878187186noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21595148.post-79798749298543624192010-11-27T11:21:30.063-05:002010-11-27T11:21:30.063-05:00wow! thank you for sharing this story. what an a...wow! thank you for sharing this story. what an amazing difference such small changes can make to our children. i will try to hold this story at the forefront of my mind when something is not going well for one of my children -- perhaps a very small change could make a world of difference. how insightful of you to figure this out!hhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18328707171847654163noreply@blogger.com